Write my obituary? Ewww!!

Yes, I know. It is a touchy subject and one that most people avoid like the plague.

But if you want to do your family a huge favor, you will do it. Now. Not next week or next month or as my friend, John, said, "when I turn 85-years-old." He is assuming (and you know what that does) that he will reach the age of 85! We have no guarantee. Ever! Plus, do you really want someone to write what they think about you? I bet not! It is so much better if you write it and give it to the appropriate folks. That might be a family member, your Power-of-Attorney, a professional such as your attorney, doctor, or pastor/priest/rabbi.

Where in the world do you start? Wherever you want to start. Most folks list the following information and let it go.

* Full name (including nicknames)

* Place and date of birth and passing

* Work history and education

* Proudest accomplishments

It would be nice to ask others to contribute something thoughtful and memorable. Schoolmates, loved ones, grandchildren (who are old enough), etc. Tell them what you are doing and ask for ideas. Does that make you or them uncomfortable? Then don't do it. But I bet you would get some really thoughtful and kind comments. Remember this is your obit and you are in charge.

The most important part is to do it! It took me months to get my husband to agree to write his. He was extremely uncomfortable. I think he eventually did it because I told him what a kind thing it would be for me to have so I wouldn't have to try to write it during the most excruciating part of life and death. And, yes, I have written mine.

One more thing to consider: the cost. It is extremely expensive to have an obituary published. A friend of mine recently received a cost of $12,000! In actuality, they start around $200 and go up...way up! Consider some alternatives/additions which may or may not have associated costs:

* On line

* Funeral home websites

* Churches

* Social media platforms

* Friends to help spread the word

Be good to your family and start writing. They will be very grateful for your thoughtfulness.

Happy aging,

Sue